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I’m 33 years old. I’ve bitten my nails & picked my finger skin for so long that I can’t remember not doing it. How do I begin to stop?


If you are a nail biter or skin picker, I'm sure you have ongoing dreams about stopping. It's rare to meet someone with these habits who actually wants to keep them, but for some reason the idea of stopping is frightening in itself, this idea then becoming it's own phobia or fear-based thought.

Nail biting & related behaviors such as cuticle picking & finger skin picking are considered obsessive-compulsive behaviors that have become mind-etched over the years into habits. Practicing biters & pickers are often unaware when they are actively involved in the self-destruction, often not waking up wuntil they have inflicted a good amount of damage or pain. Pain sensors dulled, it's quite amazing how much pain needs to be inflicted before the biter or picker stops, making this quite differnt from other pain-causing, self-destructive habits such as pinching or cutting. Sometimes the waking force is the interest in the sight of blood or an awareness of the level of destruction. Once the awakening occurs, the pain can be felt & the biter may choose to focus on this & stop the self-destruction.

Your hands, nails, cuticles & finger-skin tell a story about you. If you are a biter or picker, the story is quite clear about how you manage your own self-care & stress levels. Like it or not, the way you care for your hands, fingernails & other body areas can make or break you in many areas of life.

While these problems are often considered obsessive-compulsive disorders & may need medical treatment, there are many things you can do to help yourself to break these unwanted habits. Here you will meet up with your own personal “inner coach” & “self-manager” who will assist you in reaching & keeping your goals, both healing & growing beautifully.

Learning to manage & then partaking in the management of nail biting & related problems will give you the opportunity to become a “master of Self.” In fact, any undesirable habit, behavior, compulsion or addiction can open this same door & be a powerful gift in disguise. Gaining knowledge & partaking in action steps are two completely different things & while this may sound like common sense, it is not. It actually forms the seat of failure for many people wanting to control undesirable behaviors or habits such as nail biting & picking.